Seek first to understand, then to be understood.

imagine a big ear.
Most people don't listen very well and, as a result, one of the great frustrations in life is that we don't feel understood. no one seems to really understand our problems, our wishes, our unique situation.
The single most important communication skills you can ever learn is how to listen. Real listening doesn't mean you're just silent, it means that you're actively trying to understand another human being. Often we get into trouble because we jump into conclusions without understanding all the details.

The other day i saw my girl walking with some other man
They were walking and giggling and having a time
And i saw she was holding his hand!

I stood back and spied, my eyes filled with tears
As i watched this foul display
Some overly cheerful biceps with legs
Was taking my baby away!

As i spied over Dumpsters with feeling of hate
I saw them in a close embrace! now i'm broken hearted
'Cause before they parted, i saw her kiss his face.

That ended my garbage-can espionage
I thought i hd seen quite enough
I decided to confront that devilish girl
Who i had once called my true love

So i typed up an email to that wicked female
And gave her piece of my mind.
But i won't say what i said, in case there's kids present
But i will say my words were unkind.

I say it was the end, and right when i clicked send
I heard my telephone ring.
I picked up the receiver and couldn't believe her
It was my little ex... thing.

She said, "sorry babe that i haven't seen you all day
But my older brother 's in town!
Did i ever tell you that he is a boxer
And one of the biggest around?!"

"He'd like to meet you but he's quite protective
so behave whatever you do,
I'll just check my email and then we'll come by
And... oh look! here's an email from you."


Healthy relationships with friends and parents are built on foundation of good listening and with holding judgement.
-Sean Convey (6 Most Important Decisions You'll Ever Make)